Emotional addiction = Envy
People who have adopted Type 4 are emotionally focused, environmentally sensitive, and emotionally unstable. Sensitive emotional awareness makes them people who see what most do not. The emotional addiction is Envy, which is unconscious, being justified by unsatisfied attitude and self-image of uniqueness. Of the nine emotions described in the enneagram, envy is the most misunderstood, aggravating the difficulty of Romantics in identifying themselves in the enneagram. What they easily recognize is dissatisfaction.
The name Romantic comes from comparing their life with an idealized one, where "Yeah, things could be better." Criticism and demand for originality make them people known as authentic.
The main negative consequence of this way of organizing lies in the difficulty in recognizing their real needs. Such self-detachment reveals people focused on what is lacking, being mordant or even complaining. But the common characteristic is dissatisfaction. "If only it were so." As focus is on what is missing and the comparison is constant, they become critical and often ironic people. There is a basic sense that they have been tricked by the world or other people. It is worth emphasizing that the subtypes of 4 are the ones that present the most characteristic differences, appearing to be different between each other.
In companies, we find Type 4 usually connected to an area where creativity and originality can be expressed. Stylisting, decorating, psychology and journalism are some of the common areas. Their keen critical sense and the taste for the different create a human environment, where one wants to be. When they feel free to express themselves, they flood the environment with colors. But in their compulsion, they become melancholic, loading the environment with their sense of dissatisfaction.
"Good morning!" – Says João
"That's easy for you to say!" – Answers Vera.
For greater balance:
When Type 4 recognizes
their behavioral pattern as a way of organizing themselves and not what they
really are, they open to developing the neutralization of the emotional
addiction (Envy) and contact with themselves through the virtue of Equanimity.
This tool helps them recognize what they want from themselves, no longer by obtaining
what is missing or what is outside, allowing a greater integration of their
feelings, thoughts and actions.
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